‘What is most intimate, most personal, is most universal’


That quote from Henri Nouwen has come down to me over many years.


In the core of our being, we share a common humanity. This is deeper than culture race and even life experiences.


As I reflect on my own experiences and interactions I recognise how so often I tend to react out of presuppositions.


This is not bad in itself. First reactions and instincts can have elements of accuracy in them. It is right to presume that someone rushing towards me with an axe and a wild look on their face probably intends to harm me.

However, do often presume too much. It pays to check things out and to reflect.


So often, I have been pleasantly surprised by positive interactions and outcomes that I had been nervous about.


Communication and healthy risk-taking are more loving than acting out of fear…